Finding your Identity

Overheard in my home while children are watching Phineas and Ferb: "Buford gives wedgies to people he calls 'nerds.' We call them cool, smart people!"

My 8 year old son proclaims loud and proud "I am a GEEK!" He knows his dad is a geek (officially GeekDad). He knew his mom was a Geek even before I knew, I denied my geek mom status too long!

Friends and family members have expressed concern that his pride at being a member of the Geek tribe will draw trouble, bullies, and teasing.

My question is this:

Should I discourage him from proclaiming his Geekness?

Honestly the status of the geek label has changed since we were kids. Geeks rule the world! They keep all our technology toys and tools running. Even Barack Obama is a geek!

We are not just Geeks in this family. We have other hard to explain identities as well. The kids and I are Unitarian Universalists. My husband is an Atheist, who was raised in a Jewish household. I was raised as a Catholic. We are an interfaith family to the max. Does discouraging him to feel true to his self identity send the message that we shouldn't be the people we want to be just because other people disagree. Let's be honest, this is the root of so much teenage angst!

You know what? I never would want my kid to feel bad about who or what he wants to be. So I'm gonna let him be our fabulous, wonderful geekling!

What do you think? What would you do?

Avoid the Summer Slide

I love the site, readingrockets.org! A few tips from them on keeping your readers reading!

Many children, especially struggling readers, forget some of what they've learned or slip out of practice during the summer months. Try these strategies to help your reader improve her reading during the summer and beyond.

It's hard to keep up a reading routine in a season packed with distractions and diversions. These suggestions will fit into a busy schedule and make reading fun!

Six books to summer success

Research shows that reading just six books during the summer may keep a struggling reader from regressing. When choosing the six, be sure that they are just right – not too hard and not too easy. Ask for help selecting books that match your child's age, interests, and abilities. Libraries often run summer reading programs that motivate kids to read, so find out what's available in your area.

Read something every day

Encourage your child to take advantage of every opportunity to read. Find them throughout the day:

• Morning: The newspaper – even if it is just the comics or today's weather.

• Daytime: Schedules, TV guides, magazines, online resources, etc. For example, if your daughter likes the food channel, help her look for a recipe on the network's Web site – then cook it together for more reading practice.

• Evening: End the day by having your child read to you from the book he is currently reading (one of the six books, above). Have him rehearse a paragraph, page, or chapter before reading to you. Rereading will help him be more fluent – able to read at an appropriate speed, correctly, and with nice expression.

Keep reading aloud

Reading aloud benefits all children and teens, especially those who struggle. One benefit is that you can read books your child can't, so she will build listening comprehension skills with grade-level and above books. This will increase her knowledge and expand her experience with text, so that she will do better when she reads on her own.

Do it yourself Summer Camp!

Do you have summer camp sticker shock? I do! $300-$400 for one week of Day Camp! WOW! We just can't do it for both kids. Luckily Gramma and Grampa are giving one week to our 8 year old as a Birthday Gift and I found a budget Girl Scout camp for our 6 year old. But that's only one week of activities for each kid. The rest of the summer will be filled with free trips to town pool and playgrounds, zoo and museums!

A group of Moms in our neighborhood have taken a different approach! They are holding their own summer camp for their kids. Each day a different family is in charge of activities. Kids gather at the host house for a hike, art project, game, or cooking activity! They are holding one this week for Pre-schoolers while older siblings are still finishing school. Later in the summer there will be another circuit for the elementary school crowd.

A few ideas for camp activities:

• Go on a nature hike: We live right up against a county park, so this one is easy for us. In addition to looking for real wildlife, that might be startled by a herd of munchkins tromping through the woods, hide small toy animals in the trees, brush and along a path. Just be aware of poison ivy!
• Water games: Have a good old fashion water balloon fight, water bucket relays, squirt bottle target practice. And who can forget Slip and Slide!!
• Obstacle course: Jump from hula hoop to hula hoop, jump over mop handles, ride bikes through plastic cones!
• ART!!: My favorite! Paint outside on large pieces of paper, have fun with shaving cream even paint on each other and then go to the water games!
• Have a sleep over: OK this one scares the poop out of me! More than one or two extra kiddos sleeping under my roof is a bit crazy! But if you have ambition and bravery, pitch a tent and roast some marshmallows. Goooood Luck!

I LOVE this idea and will be gathering a group of kiddos for fun and activities around our house. You can do it for a solid week, or as a playgroup style, meeting once a week at different houses!

Put on those creative caps and beat the bad economy by doing it yourself!

Home is where you read your books!

The move is done! We are here in our new house, boxes are being unpacked, photos and pictures are being hung on the walls, various and sundry things are being lost and then found, ahhh the joys of moving.

One of the very first things we unpacked was books, books, books and yet more books! I have oohhed and ahhhhed over forgotten titles and old favorites, and in the next breath cursed the pure volume of books in boxes, boxes, boxes and yet more boxes.


One book which was actually not packed and not unpacked but carefully transported from old home to new home. That book was Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets , the book we are currently reading as a family. I have written before about chapter books we read as a family. Now though we have realized the importance of this little ritual more than ever.

The very first night we slept in our new home, we made sure to clear away a few boxes and read a chapter. It helped keep us grounded in our theme for the move, same family, new location. It helped us all feel at home and calm down after the anxiety and excitement of the big move day.

Here's the thing, that's what our story time does for us every day. Every day we get together as a family and share a book. We cuddle and listen, gasp, sniff and giggle, all together as a family. I love this time of day! I love sharing this with my family.

So when friends tell me that they "don't read to their eight year old anymore, they are too old" or "don't think a six year old can enjoy a chapter book" I just tell them it works for us. This isn't a cause or crusade, its just our family!